How To Live With A Difficult Man


Philosophy View of Man • An individual human especially an adult male human.

• A man belonging to a particular category as by birth, residence, membership occupation especially used combination councilman.

• Husband I now pronounce you man and wife.

• Lover Biblical Views of Man Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word.

With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments.

Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.

Blessed art thou, O LORD: teach me thy statutes.

With my lips have I declared all the judgments of thy mouth.

I have rejoiced in the way of thy testimonies, as much as in all riches.

I will meditate in thy precepts and have respect unto thy ways.

I will delight myself in thy statutes: I will not forget thy word. Psalm 119:9 -16 KJV

Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong. 1st Corinthians 16 :13 KJV

Nabal as his name indicates: Was a fool Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb. 1Samuel 25 :3 KJV He was wealthy And there was a man in Maon, whose possessions were in Carmel; and the man was very great, and he had three thousand sheep, and a thousand goats: and he was shearing his sheep in Carmel. 1Samuel 25 :2 KJV

Mean and dishonest Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb. 1Samuel 25 :3 KJV

Wicked and ill-tempered Let not my lord, I pray thee, regard this man of Belial, even Nabal: for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him: but I thine handmaid saw not the young men of my lord, whom thou didst send 1Samuel 25: 25 KJV

He was a drunk And Abigail came to Nabal; and behold, he held a feast in his house, like the feast of a king; and Nabal's heart was merry within him, for he was very drunken: wherefore she told him nothing, less or more, until the morning light. 1 Samuel 25: 36 KJV

Obviously, he was a stubborn and angry man Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb. 1Samuel 25 :3 KJV Abigail whose name meant “father of joy” was a devout, intelligent woman who married this fool named Nabal. Abigail saved his life. When Nabal insulted David and his men, David was prepared to go to battle, but Abigail placed herself in front of David’s army and ask for forgiveness and mercy. No one contradicted her when she said to David, I know Nabal is a wicked and ill-tempered man please don't pay any attention to him. Don't let this be a blemish on your record her wise word is cool and David praised her for a good sense.

Abigail had brains as well as beauty and a great amount of in initiative and courage. She was a woman of poise, remaining true, through thick and thin, to her husband who didn't deserve her. It is hard to live with a angry man and preserve grace and self-control, but Abigail managed it, and true to the meaning of her own name proved to be a source of joy to her village, to David and to God. In our relationship with God there is help for us just as there was help for Abigail, even if we are in a difficult relationship.


We can rise above the misery in our marriages and be independent of our circumstances, but beware of thinking you can marry a Nabal and change him after the fact. If we deliberately join ourselves to an unbeliever, we will experience real headache. Apostle Paul made a valid statement that we should never get ourselves entangled with an unsaved man or woman.

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 2nd Corinthians 6 :14 -15 KJV Still if we turn to God while in a terrible marriage, God can help us as he helped Abigail, not only to make the best of a bad marriage and learn to live with a difficult man, but also to bring blessing to our home and family to enjoy our own heart. READ AND BE BLESSED

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